The Princess and the Pig by Johnathan Emmett and Poly Bernatene

This is a book I picked at the library without seeing anything more than the title on the spine.  I was in a hurry because both children are now walking, and neither wants to sit still.  The title sounded good, the cover looked good, and there aren't so many words per page that my kids will get bored.  We love this book.

We've ordered not just a copy for ourselves but two more to give as gifts.  It's a cute story, I would like my children to learn or think about the lesson, and there are several parts that flat out make my children laugh.

There are a few lessons in this story.  The first (and blindingly obvious) is that one doesn't need money to be happy in life.  There's a message about believing everything you read, and when the princess is mixed up with a piglet the characters attempt to explain what happened referencing fairy tales of old.  There is another message about the ridiculous things we will believe because they validate our status in society or our world view, but this is a children's book and I may be reading into it too much.  Maybe not.

Skip Hop Pronto! Changing Station

Here is one product that has been invaluable to us, the Skip Hop Pronto! changing station.  It turns anywhere into a place to change your child's diaper, and is pretty convenient.  It has several pockets for wipes and diapers, and clips so it can be attached to many things.

The website lets you look at all of the available designs and you can zoom in to see the different patterns.  We have the design you see here to the right, "black."  They're named after the outside color/design.  

It has several pockets, and we use the inside zip pocket for wipes and the mesh pocket (with velcro to open and close) for diapers.  The website says you can use the outer pocket for wallets and keys and things, but this is where our older child's head rests during the diaper change, and my keys do just fine in my pocket.  

As I said earlier you can change your child's diaper anywhere you need to with this product, as evidenced by all the different places I've done it myself.  We tend to use it even when there is a diaper station in a public bathroom because who knows what happens on those things in some of these bathrooms.  It turns the trunk of my car into a changing station, the floor of an empty classroom Now that we have two children, sometimes one is napping in the bedroom with the changing table so I'll use it right in the living room.

The steps are easy.  Unclip it to open and fold out all the way.  Unzip the pocket and take out the wipes and a fresh diaper.  I aim my child's bum right at the center of the part that unfolds so there is as much material all around him/her.  My son is big enough now that the mat doesn't overlap completely anymore, and there was a period of time when his head lined up with a scratchy piece of velcro on part of it, but laying him down at a slight angle solved the problem.  The mat folds easily again, and that piece of velcro keeps the changing area folded while you clip it closed completely.  If you want to clip it to your belt or to a backpack or stroller or whatever there's a separate loop and clip, and the whole thing has enough of what you need

Really the mat serves two purposes depending on where you are.  If you're on the floor of a Dunkin' Donuts bathroom it protects your child from the outside germs, but in the trunk of your car it protects the trunk from the germs in the diaper.  I can think of one time in particular when my there was a messy diaper that had leaked out onto clothes and my trunk was full; I had to change the diaper in the back seat of my car and the Pronto! mat kept it clean through the whole ordeal.  

The bottom line:  we love this product.

And a reminder, this is not a paid endorsement of this product.  I don't get anything from Skip * Hop for writing this, this is just my opinion on one of their products.  I haven't tried any other portable changing stations to compare this to because I haven't needed any others.  After almost three years of heavy use it shows no real signs of wear.

Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb by Al Perkins

Today I'm reviewing a book we own called Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb, by Al Perkins and illustrated by Eric Gurney.  It is a 22-page board book first published in 1969, and it's one of these books like those by P. D. Eastman that are somehow affiliated with Dr. Seuss.  We've had the book since before my son was born, so I've been getting to know it for close to three years.  It's showing signs of its age; the edges are frayed, the spine is half gone, and the book kind of wobbles as you read it.   There's a reason we read this book so much, and it's one of the many things we learned at a place called Isis Parenting.

We took several classes at the now defunct Isis Parenting (you can read all about its closing in Fortune Magazine) and in one class they recommended we each choose one book to read every night as part of the bedtime routine.  The more consistent the bedtime routine the better, and this was the book I chose to read every night as part of the routine.  There were some days when I read it to my son three times a day: before morning nap, before afternoon nap, and before going to bed for the night.

The book is relatively simple and tells a story of musical monkeys assembling to play (mostly) the drums.  Some monkeys turn up who play banjos and fiddles, but in the end it's millions of monkeys with millions of drums as far as the eye can see.  There is a rhythm to the prose, and when I found it sometimes the hardest part was turning the pages fast enough to keep the beat.  Soon I had the book memorized and it was an easy go-to book.  This is a good trick if you are away from home on business and need to read books to your child over the phone.  You can buy two copies of a book and bring one with you while your child reads the other at home, but if you forget your copy or something happens to it you can instead recite a book like this.

I think it's interesting to note that a lot of these old stories that have been turned into board books have also been shortened from the original book.  In searching for it on google I saw some images of pages that aren't in the board book, and I would be interested to get a copy of the full book and see if the rhythm is the same.

I also found several different readings and/or animations on youtube, and liked this one the best.  This is the board book version, so some of the pages from the original are not there.  It's interesting to hear someone else read the book and compare it to my own inflection when I read it.  The rhythm in the video is the same but this guy has actual drum accompaniment.

The bottom line: this book is like a member of our family.

Urban Babies Wear Black by Michelle Sinclair Colman

This week we got Urban Babies Wear Black by Michelle Sinclair Colman and illustrated by Nathalie Dion from the library.  I can't decide if it is a tongue-in-cheek look at babies doing things that are stereotyped as urban (in a yuppie kind of way) or meant to be true.  The book is 18 pages long and has words on the left with a picture on the right.  It begins with the titular urban babies wear black and has the babies doing yoga, visiting art galleries, jogging (in a stroller), drinking latte, enjoying architecture, appreciating fine dining, going to the opera, and taking a taxi at the end of the day.  

I think the art is cool and very expressive, but I'm not completely happy with some of the messages.  There are many reasons children shouldn't drink coffee, and the page pictured below contradicts us when we tell our son he's too young for coffee.  

Babies shouldn't drink lattes.

When the baby is appreciating fine dining the child has his finger pointed in the air and is shouting "garçon" while being spoon-fed peas by a pair of ultra-skinny arms… it's not the way we'd want our child to treat people.  I think it speaks to my main problem with this book: I think it is targeted not at the child but at the parents.  It's like another book that was popular a few years ago called Go The F--k To Sleep, not meant for the kids' enjoyment but the parents'.  If I had a friend obsessed with living in the city and being "urban" and they just had a baby I would get them this book as a joke.  And if they used it as some kind of urban baby bible to brainwash their child into liking opera and being a snob I would be sad.

I do really enjoy the art in this book, it has a cool and distinct style.  I read that the artist, Nathalie Dion, is from Montreal, and would be interested to know if she had any particular city in mind when she created the illustrations.

The art is very cool

I do think the book is cute and somewhat humorous, but we read these books for our kids so I have to go with how they react to it.   My 10-month old isn't really that into it, nor has it captured the interest of my 2 1/2 year old.  It's a quick read and I'm not upset by its playful jest about urban babies, but I wouldn't need to purchase this book for myself (or take it out of the library again).  There are more in the series about beach babies, country babies, foodie babies, and more.  Any of them would probably make good gifts to make fun of people who want their kids to identify with those labels.

The bottom line: this book is okay.

We Love Each Other by Yusuke Yonezu

This week we took out this board book at the library by Yusuke Yonezu: We Love Each Other.  Board books are great because they can withstand the rough handling of young children, and my 10-month old insists on holding her own book during story time.  My 2 1/2 year old is capable of turning the pages of a regular picture book, but he still creases them and tears them occasionally so I still lean towards reading board books with them.

We Love Each Other is an adorable and simple book with cut out pages that turn two animals, who (as the title would suggest) love each other, into a geometric shape.  Shapes include a heart, triangle, circle, semi-circle, trapezoid, square, and rectangle.  The pictures are cute and the expressions of the animals change so they are smiling when they are together on their final page.  The book is 28 pages long but only has words every fourth page, so it can be a quick read.  

In searching for images of the book I found another site that named this their book of the week on February 12, 2014.  The images below demonstrating how the cut out pages work come from the make light home made photography blog:

The cover (the right side of the birds is cut out)

On the first page the birds are apart

Then brought together again revealing a heart

The blog suggests this book for Valentine's Day, which is a fantastic idea.  Here are some more images from the book demonstrating the artwork and how the animals become shapes:  

The rabbits form a trapezoid

Two rectangular bears...

...make a square

The back cover

I also found this article from the New York Times with a paragraph (the second in the article) devoted to the book.  The article, Love for the Littlest by Sarah Harrison Smith, was published on February 5, 2014 and puts my review to shame in its eloquence and ability to stay on topic.  Seriously, read this:

In “We Love Each Other,” a board book, the Japanese artist Yusuke Yonezu (“A Cup for Everyone”) uses clever cutouts to convey — without ever stating outright — the message that loves completes us. As readers flip the glossy cardboard pages, animals first shown next to empty spaces meet their mirror images, and the happy couple together form a new shape. Two little red birds snuggle side by side to create a heart; blue mice, with their noses in the air, lean in to construct a triangle; a big elephant and a little one combine to make a semicircle; and so on. At last, a group of cats break the pattern because, as parents well know, sometimes one plus one equals three. Yonezu incorporates simple sentences that may be within reach of some early readers, but his ingenious pictures are the main attraction.

Smith's review reveals a shortcoming of the book for single parent families, as this final image of the cats might be exclusionary.

My children really like this book, and love the pictures.  It's a quick read and has cute and familiar animals.  This is a great book for Valentine's Day.

The bottom line: we like this book.

Gerber Baby Photo Contest 2014

So the Gerber Baby Photo Contest is on again, and this time you don't have to vote through facebook or some other social media site but directly on the gerber website. Follow this link (https://gerber.promo.eprize.com/photosearch2014/) to vote or register your child for the contest.

My whole write up about the thing somehow got deleted by blogger, and it's really hard to rewrite something you already finished and published but then somehow disappeared.

You can find the winners of the contest by following this link (http://bit.ly/1qGTtWS) after January 30, 2015.  So that means you have to wait.  People always want to know how many votes their child has, but all you can do is wait until the winners are announced at the end of January.  Our child participated in the contest in 2012, and if you want to read all about it then check out my 2012 post.

Mommy! Mommy! by Taro Gomi

It's been such a long time since I've written about my child that now I have to say children because we've had a second child.  Over the months we've started going to the local library's story hour every week, and read quite a few new children's books.  I thought it might be a good way for me to ease back into writing here if I shared some of my favorite books - books that we take out over and over again or have purchased because we liked them so much.  I'll review one book per post to keep things manageable, and try to talk about a variety of topics.  Maybe I'll develop some categories to use in considering each book, but now things are getting complicated and I want to let this evolve on its own.

Mommy! Mommy! by Taro Gomi

The first book I have chosen is Mommy! Mommy! by Taro Gomi, a book we borrowed from the library.  It's a board book, and 11 pages long.  Taro Gomi is the author and artist, and when you open the book the left and right sides of the page form one image.  The images are simple and very cute, and the story is almost like dialog to a game of hide-and-seek between some baby chickens and their mother.  The chicks mistake a flower and some kind of warthog thing for their mother and say oops, and I don't want to spoil the ending but they do eventually find their mother.  The book averages a little more than two words to a page, in part because of a five-word last page.  It is the simplicity of this book that makes it so good, and there are a lot of cute little details in the art that seems familiar but different in a way.



This is a book that has all of its publishing information on the back cover, and I learned a lot from it before I googled the artist and learned even more.  The back cover reads:

"Babies know their mommies anywhere.  See, there she is right- wait, that's not Mommy!  Acclaimed author and illustrator Taro Gomi creates a playful world where readers follow two chicks on a search through the barnyard for their mother hen."

The book also has an original copyright of 2004 being published in Japan by Crayon House Co., Ltd.  It was first published in the United States in 2013 by Chronicle Books LLC., and was translated by Chronicle Books.  So I thought that was cool, and it may have explained some of the art.

When I googled Gomi I instantly recognized his book Everyone Poops, which I think is well known in the United States.  I didn't have it as a child, but I'm sure over the years I've seen it in the houses of friends with younger siblings.  He also has a storybook The Crocodile and the Dentist that looks familiar to me, and I think when we go to the library again I will look for more books by Taro Gomi.

My 2.5 year old likes the book, and my 9-month old loves the book as well.  She sits and watches the book the entire time, unlike when we're reading some wordier books and she tries to squirm away.

Both of my children love Mommy! Mommy! by Taro Gomi, and the book provides a lot of opportunity for silliness with its adorable art.  It can be an introduction to Gomi's work and to Japanese art and culture.  There's a simple grammar lesson there too, as the hen says at first "here I am," then later switches to "there you are."

The bottom line: we like this book a lot.  

Pictures Taken With Smartphones Pose Security Risks

Here's a news piece from Action News NBC about a new technology that allows people to track you based on the pictures you post.  It's not a bad idea to disable geotracking on your phone, but in the tradition of TV news the story is meant to incite fear among its viewers… but it never hurts to be careful when posting.

I'm not the first one to post about this - check out this blog entry from kyeos.wordpress.com (Keeping My Eye on the Sparrow Photography).

Baby Sign Language

I'm sure I've alluded to signing with our baby before, but it's a very complicated subject, and to be honest I wanted to see if we'd be successful before writing about it.  None of us are hard of hearing, but I've heard that it can make the terrible twos easier as well as enable more meaningful communication at an earlier age.  In fact, I may have first heard about it from one of the "Meet the Fockers" movies, as seen in this clip:

Robert DeNiro's character demonstrates baby sign language

My wife gave me a sign language kit - a book, flashcards, and a DVD.  It was a good start, but there is more to the methodology of how to teach a child to sign, especially when you are not a native (or at all experienced) signer.

My sister-in-law got this book/DVD combo from her local library, Sign with your Baby by Dr. Joseph Garcia.  I read some of the book but never watched the DVD, although it had some good information.  Many of the signs overlapped with the kit my wife had given me, but it had more about the methodology of teaching sign language.  It was from this book that I learned that some baby signing systems do not use actual ASL (the language adults use) but their own sign languages, designed specifically for babies.  This seemed crazy to me… like teaching your child baby talk on purpose, thus limiting their interaction with others.  I want my child to learn the ASL that people hard of hearing use, not some made-up baby sign language.  We've probably all heard of the bogus interpreter at the Nelson Mandela tribute; to me this is the equivalent of baby sign languages that aren't ASL.

I think I should take a moment to talk about the advantages of raising bilingual or multilingual children. The only disadvantage I've heard of is that sometimes it can delay speech, simply because if the child can already communicate there is little reason to learn to speak.  I'm currently studying to become a teacher, and one of the courses I've taken is about teaching students whose native language is not English, aka ELLs (English Language Learners).  At first it is difficult for these students to manage both learning a language and the content of their grade level, but once they become fluent they excel in both languages.  The same applies to ASL, which is a language all its own with grammar and syntax and everything that makes it a distinct language.  I'm also trying to learn ASL simultaneously for a variety of reasons, not least of which is because it's a great way to communicate with another person who signs without others knowing what you're saying.

Eventually I went to my local library and took a look through the teach baby to sign books there, and found one that was fantastic.  The Baby Signing Book by Sara Bingham not only has 450 ASL signs, but has a very useful guide on how to introduce the signs to your child.  I'll admit that I didn't follow it exactly, but part of it involved writing in the book and I didn't own it and don't want to get banned from my library.

If I remember correctly, the book recommended starting when your child is 3-4 months old and choosing 8-10 signs for common things you do with your child.  I chose things like eat, drink, milk, sleep, all done, please, sorry, thank you, you're welcome, good, hungry, change (for diaper change), I love you, sleep, bed, music, and others that I could use several times a day.  I realize that's more than 8-10 signs, but once you are comfortable making those signs and have them memorized the book says to add a new sign every week to build your vocabulary.  Your child won't start signing until later, but they're learning from everything you do and will surprise you when they start signing.

One lesson from The Baby Signing Book that I liked was that it's never too late to start signing.  This was a great book that really got into the specifics of signing with your child, and had places to record when you start using a sign with your child, when you first observe your child making the sign, and lots of great instruction.  If you're going to purchase one baby signing book, this is the one.

What I'm about to reveal is the breakthrough discovery of this whole process.  I found a website with hundreds of words in ASL with videos to accompany them, and the whole thing is free!  Everyone out there is trying to capitalize on this baby signing trend by selling charts and flash cards and books and DVDs, but this is a website that is "a labor of love" by the author, Jolanta Lapiak.  In her words: "Jolanta Lapiak is an ASL instructor and ASL/Ameslan literary artist specializing in sign language. Born a native signer to native signers (family and communities from Europe to North America), my work is a labor of love and passion for sign language."

The website is http://www.handspeak.com.  Every word has a small video demonstrating how to sign the word starring Ms. Lapiak, and they also have facebook and twitter accounts, and more videos on youtube as well.  I make sure to visit http://www.handspeak.com/word/ every day (for the ASL word of the day) to build my vocabulary.  Some days they don't update the word and it might be the word from the day before, but the site is completely free!  If the word of the day is a repeat, just click on one of the hundreds of other words and make your own word of the day!  I cannot say enough good things about this site.  If you have any questions there is contact information for Ms. Lapiak right on the site, and I've only sent a message once but she got right back to me and really just wants to help people learn ASL.  There are lessons that cover grammar from beginner to advanced, and this really is the place that everyone should go to learn ASL.  In case there is any confusion, one more time, go to:

http://www.handspeak.com

I'm not getting any kind of kickback from sending people here, it's just a great site that I visit (almost) every day, and if you're serious about learning ASL with your child this is the place to go.  My final endorsement for this site is one of the many videos you can find on youtube with Ms. Lapiak signing with her child.  In this video her daughter is 1 year 7 months old, and if you have any doubts about ASL for kids you weren't paying close enough attention:

Selling ADHD

Here's a video from another article on ADHD in children, found at http://www.nytimes.com/2013/12/15/health/the-selling-of-attention-deficit-disorder.html.  It examines the rise in ADHD diagnoses as well as the rise in prescription drug use by children, as well as the commercial campaigns promoting these drugs.  Personally I believe that some children probably need medication, but the human brain is an incredible thing, and before we dope up our kids we should try every other avenue first.  I've written before about another article, entitled Why French Kids Don't Have ADHD, which is worth a read as well.  In France it's treated first as a sociological issue, and the article cites that less than .5% of French children are medicated, whereas 9% of kids in the United States are medicated.
 

Halloween 2013

Gosh, it's been so long since I've posted here!  Here are some pics of us as a rebel soldier and an Ewok with a speeder bike.  There were so many things I wanted to do for the speeder, but I just ran out of time.  Paper mache takes a long time because each application has to dry completely before the next can go on, and I didn't start doing it until the week before Halloween.  

The Ewok hood covers his helmet perfectly

Side view

The bike in motion

New Child Car Seat Guidelines

Here's an article I found on child car seat guidelines, and it would seem they've changed again recently: http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/aaps-new-car-seat-guidelines-change-rear-facing-booster-rules-2466904.html.

The new recommendation from the American Association of Pediatrics is that children sit in a rear-facing car seat until 2 years old or the maximum size for the seat.

They recommend a child sit in a booster seat all the way until they are at least 4 foot 9 inches tall, sometime between the ages of 8 and 12.  I couldn't imagine sitting in a booster seat in middle school, and if anyone ever found out I'd have been a laughingstock.  Not that I wasn't, but a booster seat adds fuel to the fire.

Kids should not sit in the front seat at all until they're 13 years old.  I remember what a special treat it was to sit in the front seat when I was a kid, although I guess they didn't have air bags back them so it wasn't as dangerous.  But we only had lap belts then, so at least things are improving.

Why French Kids Don't Have ADHD

Here's a very interesting article about why less than .5% of French children have ADHD while 9% of U.S. kids do.  The difference, the article finds, is that in France ADHD is treated as a psychological problem, whereas in the U.S. it's considered a biological problem and is treated with medicine and prescriptions.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/suffer-the-children/201203/why-french-kids-dont-have-adhd

The whole thing is reminiscent of this book which my wife purchased and neither one of us ever read.  I really need to pick it up again (find it first) because we're getting to the point when our son is expressing his opinions, usually in the form of crying out.  This link is for the audiobook, which could be the solution to my never having a chance to read.

Sending your kids outside to play

This is a very interesting article entitled "The Convincing Case for Sending Your Kids Outside to Play."  When I was a kid I spent countless hours outside by myself or with friends riding bikes, following streams, and exploring the seemingly endless woods of the local parks.

These days people worry about disappearances and abductions and any number of horrible things that can happen in the big, modern world.  Read this article and be at ease:

http://www.inhabitots.com/the-convincing-case-for-sending-your-kids-outside-to-play-alone/

Baby's First Time at the New England Aquarium

Last week we took our son to the New England Aquarium for the first time, and although the central tank was closed for renovation he had a great time.  It was a little bit sad to see the tank empty and all the fish in the penguin area, not to mention the fiberglass smell that permeated the place, but I know we'll be back many times in the coming years, so I'm not too sad.  Except for the poor fish who I'm sure were stressed by the move.

They warned us before we purchased tickets that the tank was under construction, and my wife had seen it on the website, so we knew what we were getting into.  Because we went just after the marathon bombing there was a bag and stroller check before the line to purchase tickets; there weren't many people there that day.

The parking garage at the aquarium is always an issue.  The garage that is closest to the aquarium, the one that shares its entrance, is NOT the one the aquarium validates for (unless you're an aquarium member).  There is another garage to the south that the aquarium does validate for, and I know I've parked there before, but when the time comes I always forget which garage it is.  Since my wife is a teacher and our son is under 3 they both got in for free, so we only had to pay for my ticket.  And the $35 parking.  If you are thinking of going I recommend you either take the T or know which garage you're parking in.  There is a Parking Options at New England Aquarium page with the most current information.  Take the T.

Toddlers addicted to iPads and technology

This is quite an interesting article from The Telegraph, a UK newspaper: Toddlers becoming so addicted to iPads they require therapy.  Children in the UK are seeing therapists at a very young age because of their addiction to iPads and similar technology.

The youngest child was four years old, and was inconsolable when the iPad was taken away from her.  The child was using the iPad three to four hours a day and would get upset when it was taken away.  The doctor goes on to say that the child was exhibiting the same symptoms as alcoholics or heroin addicts, but I don't know if I'd go quite that far.  I'll believe it when I see a physiological reaction taking place in the brain similar to what happens in chemical addiction, but of course it's possible.

Some parents in the UK pay up to £16,000 (almost $25,000 at the current rate) for a 28-day detox for their kid.  It's a sad commentary on society, but at least they're willing to get help for their child (if not do some parenting themselves).

I know our son pretends to talk on the phone with objects around the apartment like the TV remote, the camera, a toy sea horse, and anything about that size.  I'm sure it's from seeing us on our phones, although we don't use the phones for internet at home because we have computers.  He does come over  and try to hit the keys whenever we use a computer within his reach, and we quickly move the computer to a table or shelf.

I've posted before about not allowing our child to watch TV, at least for the beginning of his life.  I posted about it and included a TED talk that convinced me: Media and Children.

At the Boston Marathon

Today we took baby to the Boston Marathon.  We left soon after his morning nap, and drove to where we used to live near Coolidge Corner in Brookline.  We went to the same spot last year, when he was only a few weeks old.

Before baby came along we'd walk down to the finish line and enjoy the positive energy of the marathon.  Unlike adversarial sports like baseball, football, and most other sports, at a marathon you cheer for everyone participating.  There is no opposing or visiting team.  Everyone is there to cheer the runners on.

We got to the marathon route at around 11:30, and I had baby in his Kiddy backpack.  The first time we approached the crowd he started to cry; we think he doesn't like the loud noise of the crowd.  Thinking he was hungry, we went to Rami's for delicious falafel sandwiches.  He ate some cheese and asparagus we had for him.

We went back to the route after lunch, but he started crying again.  I didn't want to give up, so we went back to the car and switched him into his stroller.  We went back again, but he cried again.  We'll have to try and make him more comfortable around crowds, and I'm going to have to research how to do that exactly.

In a way we were lucky he was acting up.  If we had followed the plan and walked to the finish line, who knows, we could have been there when this attack happened.  Our thoughts and prayers go out to everyone effected by this tragedy.

Reflections on Baby's first year

Our son had his first birthday almost a month ago, but I thought it might be nice to reflect on what I've learned and what I should try to do better on next time.  It's amazing how the time has gone both quickly and slowly; one year is such a short amount of time but the growth and change we've seen have been astounding.

One of the most valuable things we've done since the beginning is keep a daily journal of his activities and achievements.  How that he's one, as I write each day's entry I look back and see what we were doing one year ago today.  At the beginning I missed a few days, but now I'm in a pretty good rhythm. The trick is to never go more than two days without writing in it.  And not to get upset when your spouse stops making entries and the entire thing falls to you.

He's had the flu twice.  At least one ear infection.  The stomach flu.  He went to the ER four times (if you include our return to the NICU when he was 4 days old).  I couldn't guess how many times we took him to the doctor.

It's all worth it, what a great first year!

1st Birthday Party

This morning Watching Baby passed the 10,000 view mark.  Thank you so much for visiting, and coming back!  There are so many topics I want to cover, but it's been hard to make time to really go into depth about things we do like cloth diapering, making his baby food, and living without daycare.  My saving grace is the diary I've kept since baby was born, and while I missed a few days here and there at the beginning for several months I've written in it every day paying special attention to milestones and behaviors as they develop.

Baby turned one this week, and we had two birthday parties to celebrate.  The first with my wife's family in NJ last weekend, and we tried something new when traveling there.  It's about a 4 hour ride depending on the traffic, and it can be much worse when there's a lot of construction in Connecticut.  We packed the car after work and treated it like a regular evening, feeding him and getting him ready for bed at around 6:30 or 7pm.  Instead of putting him to bed we got right into the car and left.  He only drank about half of his bedtime bottle, so he was able to finish it in the car.  He opened his eyes occasionally during the ride, but slept for most of it; when we arrived, however, he was wide awake and wanted to show off his walking ability to his grandparents.  He stayed up about an hour then went down sometime in the 11pm hour.  My wife read that at around 1 year old a child will start to show separation anxiety, especially around bedtime.  He's definitely been putting up more of a fight going to bed for my wife, but he goes down for his naps for me with no problem.  I try not to take it personally.

The next day we had his actual birthday party; his grandparents and uncles with their significant others were there.  My wife and I had talked about making a special cake with less sugar and fewer ingredients for baby, but we didn't have time in the end to make it.  He ended up eating the same funfetti cake that we all had, although we took away most of the frosting after he had a little taste.  We've heard of people making a smash cake; a cake that is just for the child, as the name suggests, to smash and throw all around to their heart's content.  We'd rather start teaching him right away that certain behaviors aren't acceptable when eating, and smashing up your food and throwing it around is one of them.  That said, he still gets to eat with his hands and have a little fun, but only because it's a special occasion and if he had gotten out of control we probably would have taken it away.

Baby gets the flu, influenza A then influenza B

So January was a tough month for sickness in our house, as baby got the flu twice and at least one ear infection.  We thought that we would be good for a little while after he got the flu the first time, but almost immediately after he was sick again.

The flu comes in many different varieties, and each year they choose what they think will be the prevalent flu strain and develop the vaccine to fight that flu.  They spend the year incubating their vaccine and producing enough for the population.  If they choose the wrong flu, and another such as bird flu or swine flu hits instead, the vaccine will be ineffective.  The same concept applies to many colds.  Once you've had it your body still has the antibodies to fight that cold for some time after it's gone; you can't get the same cold twice in a row.

Our baby didn't get the same cold twice in a row.  He got influence B, then influenza A.  My wife took him to the doctor on a Friday for his amoxicillin rash, then on Monday she took him again and he was diagnosed with the flu.  His temperature was a little high leading up to his trip to the doctor's, but our pediatrician's office doesn't even want to see him unless his temperature reaches 101°.

It's a bit scary when your infant is diagnosed with the flu, because the reason I always cite for not getting a flu shot is that only the elderly, babies, and people with compromised immune systems really have complications when they get the flu.

We ended up taking him to the hospital when his temperature went up to 104°.  I guess I always thought that was when the temperature begins to effect the brain, and we weren't taking any chances.  We were only giving him acetaminophen (Tylenol) and didn't know that you can use ibuprofen as well.  From hearing my coworkers talk about putting babies in ice baths and other drastic measures to get their temperature down I wasn't sure what to do.  It was cold outside, but we couldn't just take him without a jacket.  I wet a towel and put it on his head, we bundled him up as usual, and were off to the hospital.

By the time we were there his temp was down to 102.5° or so, and after we were seen by the triage doctor it was time to wait.  In the ER they determine how critical your condition is and assign a priority accordingly.  The triage doc told us he can take ibuprofen at the same time as acetaminophen, so they gave him some and his fever went right down to a safe level.  A baby with a slight fever is low priority, and we ended up spending more than three hours there.  When the doctor did come to see us, she asked us why we were really there.  Those were her exact words, "why are you really here?"  We told her we thought 104° was a dangerous temperature, and she told us some higher temp is really okay; she seemed to think we panicked for nothing.  I don't even remember at what temperature she said to bring them in, because I think if his temp gets to 104° again we'll probably take him to the hospital again in spite of what she said.